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A lawyer or attorney can provide the support you need to stay strong and get through your situation. Your attorney can help you understand your rights under the law and connect you to social services that will help you after securing protective orders.
Use https://www.womenslaw.org/find-help/finding-lawyer to help find a lawyer
Document everything for legal purposes, if you feel safe doing so:
Many doctors are trained to recognize signs of abuse. Your health care provider could also be a safe resource for disclosing abuse. If you’re visiting a doctor for an injury, ask them about safe ways they can make notes about the abuse without having to go to the police.
Do you have a trusted friend, coworker, or family member who knows what’s going on and would be willing to help? There are many ways they can help document the abuse – whether that’s a coworker making note of times your partner calls you at the office or a friend holding your journal at their house.
If you think someone is stalking you, creating a stalking log can be very helpful for your case. Document information like date of incident, time of incident, location of incident, approximate length of incident, name of abuser, witnesses, description of what the abuser did or what the abuser said, how you felt as a result (scared, unsafe, threatened, traumatized, hurt, etc.), police officer information if the police were involved, and note supporting evidence like pictures, medical records, or police case number.
Call your local police department’s non-emergency number and find out about protocols and procedures for filing a police report. You could ask, “I would like to learn more about filing a police report and what information I would need to provide, should anything happen in the future.”
Always ask questions. This can help you prepare for filing a police report if you need to, which creates a paper trail of abuse.
A digital camera or your phone camera may not always be safe. Consider getting a disposable camera. Another option is for someone else to take pictures and keep them for you.
Are you receiving calls over and over? Let it go to voicemail once and save the voicemail.
Do you have a smartphone? Most have the “take a screenshot” option. If you have an excessive number of calls from your abuser, take a screenshot of that. Threatening texts? Instead of responding to them, take a screenshot of them. These screenshots get saved in your images folder, so remember to send them on to a friend and delete them. If your abuser sends threatening emails, don’t respond to them, but consider saving them in a folder in your inbox.
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